Chapter (4) Liberating Yourself from External Judgments

1. Never expect to get what you give; not only some have a heart like you.

2. If you want to be happy, have zero expectations of others.

3. The best way to avoid disappointment is not to expect anything from anyone.

4. Expectation is the root of all heartache.

5. Expecting happiness from others is a debt with no guarantor. Cultivate it within yourself.

6. Do not blame people for disappointing you; blame yourself for expecting too much from them.

7. Never blame anyone in your life. Good people give you happiness, bad people give you experience, the worst people give you a lesson, and the best people give you memories.

8. If you do not heal from what hurt you, you will bleed on people who did not cut you.

9. The lonely one offers his hand too quickly to whomever he encounters.

10. The broken will always love harder than most. Once you have been in the dark, you learn to appreciate everything that shines.

11. Misery should not seek company. It should seek its source.

12. The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.

13. Never let your feelings get too deep; people can change over time.

14. You will never make it if you care what others think.

15. Everyone focuses on themselves and worries about their own problems. No one is constantly watching and judging you.

16. The greatest prison is the fear of what other people think.

17. People only bring up your past when they are intimidated by your present.

18. People will talk behind your back. Do not worry; they are behind for a reason.

19. Do not be overheard complaining, not even to yourself.

20. The worst person to be around is someone who complains about everything and appreciates nothing.

21. Do not take criticism from people you would never go to for advice.

22. When you genuinely do not care about anyone’s thoughts of you, you have reached a dangerous level of freedom.

23. One day, you decide to trust what feels right more than other people’s opinions, and your whole energy changes.

24. Believe what your heart tells you, not what others say.

25. When people start hating you for no reason, that is when you are doing things right.

26. Do not be upset by people you do not respect.

27. People never get jealous of losers.

28. You will never be criticised by someone who is doing more than you. You will always be criticised by someone doing less.

29. If you really want it, they do not matter anymore. It is just you and your dreams; the rest is just noise.

30. Free yourself from society’s advice; most have no idea what they are doing.

31. Be okay with people not like you. Most do not even like themselves.

32. Pay no attention to toxic words. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not you.

33. The less you care, the happier you will be and the better you will feel.

34. Other people’s opinions do not pay your bills.

35. Stress should be about money or career, not about who is not talking to you.

36. Do not overplay your part. Treat them the same way they treat you.

37. If you knew how quickly people forget the dead, you would stop living to impress people.

38. Do not try to seem wise to others.

39. Let them be wrong about you. There is nothing to prove.

40. Stop looking for validation from people who are not even valid.

41. Value your peace more than people’s opinions.

42. If people have a problem with you, it is their problem, not yours.

43. You are not responsible for what other people think about you.

44. Turn off “What will they think?” and turn on “What do I want?”.

45. Your peace is more important than anyone’s judgment of you.

46. God removes people from your life because he heard the conversations that you did not hear.

47. You do not have to chase things when you are naturally in tune and aligned with them.

48. Do not chase anyone. Do not beg anyone to stay. Know your worth.

49. Stop trying to please others; choose to do what makes you happy.

50. Do not care what people think of you. You were not born to impress them.

51. When you come to a point where you do not need to impress anybody, your freedom will begin.

52. No matter what you do, some people will never like you.

53. Care about other people’s thoughts; you will always be their prisoner.

54. If you expect everyone to like you, you are in trouble.

55. You cannot make everyone happy.

56. You do not need to be liked by everyone; not only some have good taste.

57. We must face the fact that many people we love do not care about us.

58. Accept that you are not essential to some people and move on.

59. They do not have to like you, and you do not have to care.

60. Stop expecting; start accepting. Life becomes much more accessible.

61. Stay busy; they do not deserve you.

62. Keep yourself busy to stay out of sad feelings.

63. Do not react. Cut them off silently; they know exactly what they did.

64. Forgiving people in silence and never speaking to them again is a form of self-care.

65. If you hate a person, then you are defeated by that person.

66. Hate in your heart will only damage your soul.

67. Stop making room for people who do not value their place in your life. Do not hate them back. They do not deserve a place in your mind.

68. Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions.

69. Hurting them back will not heal your pain. Revenge will not recover your loss.

70. Let time expose them; they cannot fake it forever.